Do you have a child who is so perfectionist that he/she avoids participation in any kind of group activity? A child who is scared of making mistakes or who gets worried that her answer may be wrong.
I always try to be so mindful when I talk to my girls to not to shame or blame them for their behavior. At the same time I find myself more than often in the vicious cycle of yelling, shaming and then feeling guilty about it. Trying so hard to unlearn the traditional ways of parenting. Healing my own insecurities through raising my girls. .
To unlearn perfectionist attitude I start playing open ended games like building legos, links, blocks and puzzles. I make many intentional mistakes and then I say something like this, “ oh I think I made a mistake, now let me think what do I need to do to make it right. Try to brainstorm and figuring out a solution.” As experts say, Model the behavior that you want to see in your kids. One fine day I was making this big tree with Mirha and I made a mistake and started saying oh I did wrong, I don’t know how to do it then she told me,” mommy, it’s fine . We can think of a solution together.” .
Model,Model and Model is the key to see a behavior that you want in your child!
Play, play and play is the key for establishing a secure connection with your child!