"Feeling better" 🤷♀️... What does that really mean? I hear this from clients all the time ("I want to feel better" or "I will feel better when...") and not surprisingly is something I used to say myself! I used to say things like I "feel better" when I'm fit or I "feel better" when I eat a certain way (vegetarian, no sugar, low carb etc etc) or I "feel better" when I fit X item of clothing in my wardrobe... At the time I honestly thought that was the truth, that it was about the fitness, it was about the food, it was about the clothes I could wear because like most of us, that is what I grew up being told. It was the messages that were received through the media, through family values, through socialisation in sports, through years in the fitness industry. .
The predominant message being that if you want to "feel good" you need to have a level of fitness, the fitter the better, you have to eat a certain way and underneath all of it, you have to make sure you maintain a certain size body. And if you're not "feeling good" you can "feel better" by changing these things. The problem with this way of thinking is that it is focused entirely on the physical.
It doesn't take into account that the way you FEEL is emotional, it is also created through the mental, the thoughts that you are having. As an example one of the causes for us not feeling the way that we want to feel may be that we are dissatisfied with our body, (who can relate to this?). If we operate from what I wrote above most people will the go about changing their physical bodies in order to "feel better", rather than addressing the mindset that is having them think the thoughts they are thinking to then feel this dissatisfaction. .
We all have days when we want to "feel better", myself included but what I'd encourage you to ask yourself next time you are thinking this is, what do I actually want to feel? .
What you may find is you want to feel confident, you may want to feel loved or lovable, you may want to feel happy, you may want to feel fulfilled in your career, you may want to feel sexy, you may want to feel calm, you may want to feel at peace with your body... Can your relate? Continued ⬇️