Lesbians and gay men, we have to do a better job taking care of the rest of our community. Trans and bi folks (and pan, and queer, and, and, and... etc.) need us and what are we doing!? Creating a hierarchy? They're not gay enough? Not trans enough? Not worthy? Fuck that. Do better. Call out biphobic shit. All of this? The ostracism, exclusion from their own community, these things don't only hurt in the moment, they foster deep seated shame over the long run. Shame, internalized homophobia, internalized biphobia, feelings of unworthines, feeling like there's something wrong with being polysexual, these can (and do) contribute to abuse of alcohol and other drugs. .
Bi, pan, generally queer and otherwise not-straight babes: I see you. I love you. You are part of my life and world and community. You are valid. You are welcome. That means I don't care if you've identified as bi+ for two minutes, two months, two years or two decades. I don't care if you know "what you are" or if you ever do. The only thing I care about is that you know there's nothing wrong with you and you deserve the exact kind of love you want. .
Everything is connected, my loves. Everything. You can't deny part of who you are while trying to heal the rest.
If you're wondering about your sexuality, if you haven't come out about being bi/pan/queer/not-straight, if you need someone to tell so you can start healing your whole self: you can tell me. .
I love you.
I do love you.